The discontinuity of expectations

I was born in the early 1990s. I have been married for almost five years now, and I have seen many friends and cousins getting married. They are all happy irrespective of the kind of marriage — love or arranged, but one thing I have observed is a distinct problem, not the mother-in-law acting like a selfish jerk kind of generations-old problem, but the philosophical dissonance in the girl’s mind kind of problem.

Since we are little girls, we are taught to be independent, to study, to be excellent, to make sure our name stands for something and to make our parents proud…